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Your Marriage Abuse Cycle Exercise [341]
Update: 2025-08-19
Description
Have you ever felt like you're starring in a rerun of your own life? Same arguments. Same heartbreak. Same fake flowers and empty promises. It’s called the abuse cycle, my friend.
In this episode, I dive deep into an exercise that one of our Flying Free members shared in the private forum. She mapped out her relationship’s specific abuse cycle, and what she discovered was pretty important.
Nothing changes when nothing changes. Oof. That one landed.
What you’ll learn:
- The Three Phases of the Abuse Cycle
- What HE Does vs. What YOU Do in each phase, and why it’s crucial to spell it out.
- How this member's personalized cycle became her key to awareness, and eventually, empowerment.
- The Denial Trap: Why “love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs” is not a permission slip to forget he’s hurting you.
- The radical difference between surviving the cycle and disrupting it with intentional action.
Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here
Related Resources:
Check out some other related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “Interrupting the Abuse Cycle” and “How to Change Yourself While Still Stuck in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage.”
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